Before you decide
Deciding whether to leave a marriage is one of the most consequential choices a person can make. There is no right answer, but there is a right process — one that gives you space to think clearly, gather information, and act in alignment with your values.
Six questions to sit with
Take time with each of these. Write your answers down. The act of writing slows your thinking and surfaces things your brain hides from you when you are just ruminating.
- What would my life look like in five years if nothing changed?
- Have I been honest with my spouse about what is wrong?
- Is there a version of this marriage I would want to stay in?
- What am I afraid of about leaving — and is the fear about the marriage or about logistics?
- Who in my life knows the truth about what is happening?
- If a friend described my situation to me, what would I tell them?
Next steps
Whatever you decide, do not decide alone. A licensed therapist, a trusted friend, and a consultation with a family law attorney can each give you a different angle on the same question.
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This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or therapeutic advice. Please consult with qualified professionals for guidance specific to your situation.
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